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To sum up, I am now incredibly sympathetic to anyone getting married. I've been there (it feels like we were just there, but the reality is that we've been married for a little over six months, and were engaged for exactly six months). So, while I'm still snarky (I don't think there is anything in the world that could stop me from being snarky), I'm more understanding and less judgmental.
I think, now, that there are really only two things that make a happy wedding. First, it has to be a happy thing that the couple is getting married. I've been to a wedding where I thought the couple made some poor choices, or was really rushing into things, and that makes it less happy. Secondly, the couple has to be nice on the wedding day. I've never been to a wedding where they weren't. The couple may have been stressed, but there have been no crazy tantrums (or general craziness, like the wedding Joel went to where the money dance had a credit card reader, which I find past the boundary of good taste). But with those two things, I will have a splendid time as a wedding guest. The rest of the details matter, but not that much.
I went to a wedding a month or two ago for one of Joel's friends. It was really simple. An afternoon church service followed by a reception on the church patio with cupcakes and snacks. And yes, I did notice that the wedding invitations had multiple spelling errors. I mostly just felt sorry for the couple because I know it could easily have happened to me, which is why I obsessively had multiple people check the invitations. Oh, there was also the moment where everyone was supposed to sing a song on the screen, but nothing was there for the entire song (which didn't even have a repeating chorus). We talked about it (there were many friends there), but mostly everyone found it amusing and then spent more time wishing that we were allowed in the bounce house (it was kids only). There were certainly things that could have been done better, but there always are.
I find that I'm sympathetic to the brides and grooms that are trying to plan a wedding and finding it stressful instead of blissful, and having to juggle what they want with what they've been told to want with what everyone else seems to want. And more and more with all the details I'm not judgmental, because I'm finding that while I wouldn't have listed the places we were registered on the wedding invitation, or done a wedding invitation in shades of pink and floral, it's not bad that someone else has. It's not going to stop me from going to the wedding or wishing them well. It makes me very happy with what Joel and I chose to do, because it was perfect for us. I may secretly think it was the best way of doing things, but I actually understand that other people have the wedding that is right for them.
I think, now, that there are really only two things that make a happy wedding. First, it has to be a happy thing that the couple is getting married. I've been to a wedding where I thought the couple made some poor choices, or was really rushing into things, and that makes it less happy. Secondly, the couple has to be nice on the wedding day. I've never been to a wedding where they weren't. The couple may have been stressed, but there have been no crazy tantrums (or general craziness, like the wedding Joel went to where the money dance had a credit card reader, which I find past the boundary of good taste). But with those two things, I will have a splendid time as a wedding guest. The rest of the details matter, but not that much.
I went to a wedding a month or two ago for one of Joel's friends. It was really simple. An afternoon church service followed by a reception on the church patio with cupcakes and snacks. And yes, I did notice that the wedding invitations had multiple spelling errors. I mostly just felt sorry for the couple because I know it could easily have happened to me, which is why I obsessively had multiple people check the invitations. Oh, there was also the moment where everyone was supposed to sing a song on the screen, but nothing was there for the entire song (which didn't even have a repeating chorus). We talked about it (there were many friends there), but mostly everyone found it amusing and then spent more time wishing that we were allowed in the bounce house (it was kids only). There were certainly things that could have been done better, but there always are.
I find that I'm sympathetic to the brides and grooms that are trying to plan a wedding and finding it stressful instead of blissful, and having to juggle what they want with what they've been told to want with what everyone else seems to want. And more and more with all the details I'm not judgmental, because I'm finding that while I wouldn't have listed the places we were registered on the wedding invitation, or done a wedding invitation in shades of pink and floral, it's not bad that someone else has. It's not going to stop me from going to the wedding or wishing them well. It makes me very happy with what Joel and I chose to do, because it was perfect for us. I may secretly think it was the best way of doing things, but I actually understand that other people have the wedding that is right for them.