I got to this point way before Tom, which was interesting, as he kept saying, "We have wedding things to do!" and I would be like "DO NOT WANT".
Is it possible to let go of some things? E.g. let your crazy roommates have full control of the pillar candles and bubble favors and gently steer them towards not worrying you with it any more? Or are there things you can cut out? Or can you take a two week moratorium on wedding planning? A lot of the WIC is built on fear--that you won't have the perfect wedding, that you won't actually manage to get married, that people will hate you. I've found going "No. It will be okay. In fact, I refuse to do anything towards this stupid event this week. It can keep until next week and what doesn't get done doesn't get done, so there!" has been really helpful for my sanity and perspective.
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Date: 2011-08-18 06:55 pm (UTC)Is it possible to let go of some things? E.g. let your crazy roommates have full control of the pillar candles and bubble favors and gently steer them towards not worrying you with it any more? Or are there things you can cut out? Or can you take a two week moratorium on wedding planning? A lot of the WIC is built on fear--that you won't have the perfect wedding, that you won't actually manage to get married, that people will hate you. I've found going "No. It will be okay. In fact, I refuse to do anything towards this stupid event this week. It can keep until next week and what doesn't get done doesn't get done, so there!" has been really helpful for my sanity and perspective.